טשעירמאן האט געשריבן:כוואלט זיך מער אריינגעלייגט אין מאכן קארטאונס פונם אלגעמיינעם סטאנדארט, ווי זיך פארלייגען אויפן חתונה מאכן אבער וואס סקומט אונטער הכל ריווח
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די אחראים: זייער נייגעריג,אחראי,thefact
פעטער שמואל האט געשריבן:פּשוט און פּראָסט האט געשריבן:נ.ב. און קען זיין די שומרים קארטלעך װאלט װען אױך געדארפט גיין אױף אזא װעג, איף עניטינג, אבער שױן, קיינער האטעך מיך נישט געפרעגט..
מיר געדענקן נאך די ערשטע קאריקאטור קעגן די אינטערנעט איז געלאפן וועכנטליך אין די גליון 'מבאר רבותינו'. מהאט דארט געזעהן ווי א יונגעל ווערט פארוואנדלט אין א עליגעיטאר אין 6 פאזעס.....
די אמת'ע ציהל האט געשריבן:i would like to add my 2 cents,
whenever a person wants to achieve something he gotta look deep into the goal and examine it and be very clear "what his goal is exactly", once that's done he can go to step # 2, which is going and seeing very clear the obstacles. and finding away to prevent obstacles or to help achieve the goal by crossing obstacles or which ever way he sees right to get to the goal, but again it must be very clear what the goal is.
lets take it to the discussion here,
we all want that weddings should be inexpensive and affordable, this is why some people come up with the idea that we should make rules and regulations, other people thing that we should teach the kids. everyone has a different idea, and some people believe we should make הצלה קארטלעך - ר' אליעזר קרויס.
i think (when i examine what the goal is) the goal is not only to have affordable weddings, its much more deeper and stronger then that, why should we only settle on solving wedding costs, rather the goal is to have healthy parents (with no peer pressure), have healthy kids (with no peer pressure), and healthy weddings in every aspect, the only way to achieve it is to do it on a healthy way. and working directly with the goal.
let me explain my self,
the problem is peer pressure, if we teach kids to make a wedding on a specific way, even if we are successful, you did NOT teach them, how to deal with life, peer pressure, expenses, money and whatever it takes to have a normal healthy life style, but you did teach them to be kids that believe that they can have a saying on parents roles in life, you did teach them that our parents don't know what they are doing, and also its a good time consuming game to play but not something that will teach them LIFE. ( i am not even going in to the חינוך and דעת תורה aspect of it if its right to teach in that specific way), i am only saying that this is not helpful for our goal.
teach kids to be strong, to know whats a important and what not. not only about a wedding, about everything in life.
it can still be thru cards, but on the highest respect level, not cards that are something about our parents just kids between them self's.
די אמת'ע ציהל האט געשריבן:i would like to add my 2 cents,